I haven’t blogged in a while because things have been spaztacular. Botox was supposed to help with my spasms, but it’s not. I’m a spaz, what can I say?
Anyway, this past weekend, I got the opportunity to attend this year’s OFCP conference, and I had an AWESOME time. I met (and listened to) some cool people, hung out with a friend of mine, sold a few books, and even danced. It was a very busy but fun and surreal few days.
Some of you may recall me talking about the times when I felt like I was “normal,” and when my disability seemed to “fade away.” I experienced a similar feeling at the conference. However, I realized that for many years now, I have tried to do what I do, in spite of my disability – I’ve tried to achieve my goals without my limitations getting in the way. I ran, or rather attempted to run from my Cerebral Palsy, and other differences, instead of integrating and embracing them. My disability is a part of me – sure, having CP really sucks at times, but without it, I wouldn’t be me.
For the longest time, I felt like if I couldn’t find a way to overcome my disability, I would never really get the chance to have the life I wanted. However, the whole OFCP conference experience, just proves and reaffirms how untrue that notion is.
I can be “normal” and disabled. I can be successful and disabled, and one of the main reasons for creating Starkeeper is to show people with disabilities (and/or any other difference) that they can be successful in their own right. I can even be gay and disabled!
There isn’t a whole lot of dialogue around being gay and disabled, or dating and disability in general. This is one of the reasons why I got involved with Hidden Rainbow. My friend Andrew, founded Hidden Rainbow, which is an online community and resource site for LGBTQ people with disabilities. Check out the site, and/or get a hold of us, if you are interested. We’d love to hear from you!